What is Belief?

Sales executive may believe that the sale is not going to materialize or the product is high priced or his/her target is not rationals.

                             Child may believe that s/he may fail in maths

                             Wife may believe that she is not good in cooking

                             Graduate may believe that he may not get the job

                             Etc.

These are some of the beliefs and now let us see how beliefs are formed?

                             Beliefs are formed in young age of a person. When a child is young the parent says or spanks the child that he is not good at any thing. As the child is in the stage of learning how to do and the parent with their competence and perfection wants the child to achieve the same level. Child then tries it with their friends, if once again some one says that it is not good then this particular point get fixed in mind. As the child grows s/he has to be in group and work in a team as well as prove to her/his parents that they are outperforming. The parents who had not understood the child and who expects a perfection of grown ups are not in a position to encourage the child and help the child to develop their abilities .

                As the child reaches the teen age, the point of not doing good becomes stronger as the confidence level and the self esteem is low. The child may not perform well and starts following as even teachers is not in a position to encourage by finding out the cause .The teachers are busy in giving their praise to students who score high or who succeeds in various competition and making them as representatives .

             Child who has the point fixed (not good) gets reinforced every now and then by the people around them and as the person enters in to college life ,they with the limiting belief shy out from the responsibilities given to them and may not even participate in many of the activities. As adult they start their life career in a low paid job or they may join a good job and may not perform and come to a stand still.

                             Above I had given only an example and beliefs exist in every person. A CEO may believe that investment in expansion is waste or a field executive may believe that his workers are not educated to give in their views or a husband may believe that wife as a woman has to listen to him or a Teacher may believe that students has to listen them.

                                      The most interesting thing is that even people well learned believe that they know every thing in their field of work as they may not see some of the subtle areas and finally they blame on others.

          I had classified belief as

          Limiting Beliefs

          Empowering beliefs 

          Over empowered beliefs

Understanding and Updating beliefs are those beliefs where you have confidence and self esteem in proper ratio or proportion.

Over Empowered beliefs are like over confidence where by one thinks that what ever s/he says and does is right possibly till the time is in their way. One has to remember we work according to time ,Time does not work for us.

Confidence is like riding a bicycle during learning with out others help in the street where there is no much traffic and over confidence is one taking the bicycle in the main road and trying to ride by leaving a hand. Here when the rider falls then the incident some times becomes a beliefs where by s/he never touches the cycle again or  that matter any vehicle if the emotional pain suffered by the accident is more and this becomes a limiting Belief.

          What role that Beliefs play in ones life?

                             Interesting every being if you ask me function based only on their beliefs in this material world .success and failure ,Happiness and sorrow, Satisfaction and Dissatisfaction ,confident etc are mostly based on ones belief .In my previous example I had outlined how a belief of not good had been formed in a person and let me tell you some of the effects.

                   As a adult with belief of not good enough will not perform well in both in personal as well as in the professional part. Personally he may not be out spoken, he may shy out in the relationship with his partner, with his friends and relatives. S/He may get in to unproductive habits like smoking ,Drinking ,Drugs.

                  Professionally ,S/He may not be in job which demands more responsibility ,creativity ,pressure they may be as a blue colour worker who is comfortable with routine jobs.

              A child with this belief may not be a good team worker ,may be alone, performance in school as well as in other activities may be less or totally absent.

May have friends with problematic behaviour ,may lie ,blame ,steal etc.

What are the ways to have empowering Belief?

                   NLP helps to unlearn our disempowering beliefs by working with oneself and relearn a empowering one as one has the power with in themselves to reinforce it.

                   If you can understand your belief system then you can be free of your emotional and physical disorders .Success becomes a part of you .If one thinks S/He have empowering beliefs and only because of it one has reached to this particular position then I ask them to check once again If you are a executive then what has stopped you to become manager if you are a manager then what is stopping you of becoming General manager or CEO or chairman or President .

                                      Every one have beliefs and most of them are aware of what is their belief is as probably they may not know exactly what beliefs are or they are lethargic or stuck in the challenges of every moment etc .Some times one take it easily for granted and normally put this way as

                             “My mother did so I am also doing it”

                                      This reminds me of a story some time back a wonderful understanding couple lived in Bangalore . Satish was a software engineer and his wife Rashmi was in HR .They lived along with his mother and father .Satish was very fond of turkey prepared by his mother and he asked Rashmi to learn the method of preparation from his mother .Rashmi too agreed and was learning the lesson from her in law. Rashmi’s mother-in- law cleaned the turkey and took off the tail portion and marinated with her secret recipe and cooked it in oven .Rashmi by seeing this was questioning her mother in law for better understanding as she was questioning Rashmi asked her in law what was the reason behind cutting the tail portion ,her in law replied “for this you have to ask my mother and I am doing what my mother used to do” .Days passed and they made a trip to their home town Mysore. There Rashmi’s in laws mother was asked to cook turkey and Rashmi was eager to learn more about the style .As Rashmi was observing and learning she did every thing more or less the same as her in law and finally she did not cut the tail portion of turkey by seeing this Rashmi asked her why she had not done so? and explained what she learned from her mother in law and the way she used to throw off the tail portion ,Rashmi asked her why she is not doing the way she was doing it earlier .Mother in laws mother replied that, during our days we were not having big oven or grill or utensil so when the tail has been cut the turkey fits into the utensil we were having .Now we have ample space to cook the turkey as it is.

                             The above story depicts how people follow  beliefs blindly and how beliefs are formed by the influence of authority and more interestingly how the limiting beliefs can be carried for a long time until you become aware of your self and realize that NLP helps you to identify the limiting beliefs and understand the cause of it and the effect it imposes in you and finally to drop it and learn a new belief.

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